What makes this journey so different? If you’ve been through profound hardship in your life, you’ve probably heard someone say to you, “I can’t even imagine.”
That’s the difference with pregnancy after loss. We CAN imagine. We can imagine sitting in a tense room while we’re told “I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat” or “the diagnosis is terminal” or “there’s nothing more we can do” or “‘let us know when you’re ready to unplug the machines.”
We can imagine because we’ve been there. We’ve lived it once….or more. We know that look on the doctors or nurses face. We know the look of pity in their eyes and the sound of it in their voices. We know the anxious waiting for answers that feels like you’re hanging over the apex of a rollercoaster agonizing over a drop that can’t come soon enough.
We know the silence, we know the feeling of having a million questions but choking on the words to ask. We know the urge to fast forward to whatever comes next while wanting to rewind to the blissful naivety of five minutes prior. We know the danger of hoping.
We’ve lost a sense of invincibility we never knew we had, and still we choose to do it all again, and that’s what makes it so different.
Raise your hand if you “CAN imagine” 🙋♀️ Then give yourself a pat on the back and remind yourself you’re #toughasamother #toughasaparent 👊
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Our Pregnancy After Loss Group is meeting virtually over zoom this Wednesday August 19 from 8pm-10pm MST. Register through our website.
I can’t even imagine
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The Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Centre is a non-profit registered charity that helps families connect to support on their path to healing after pregnancy or infant loss. Families like yours can work with us and get support with a variety of services that hold space for your unique story. No matter at what stage of your parenthood journey you find yourself, your story will be heard here.
If you are ready to share your story, or you need help with your journey, get in touch with us.
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We are dedicated to supporting individuals of all faiths, ethnicities, sexual orientations, and gender identities. In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.