I can’t even imagine

What makes this journey so different? If you’ve been through profound hardship in your life, you’ve probably heard someone say to you, “I can’t even imagine.”⁠

That’s the difference with pregnancy after loss. We CAN imagine. We can imagine sitting in a tense room while we’re told “I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat” or “the diagnosis is terminal” or “there’s nothing more we can do” or “‘let us know when you’re ready to unplug the machines.”⁠

We can imagine because we’ve been there. We’ve lived it once….or more. We know that look on the doctors or nurses face. We know the look of pity in their eyes and the sound of it in their voices. We know the anxious waiting for answers that feels like you’re hanging over the apex of a rollercoaster agonizing over a drop that can’t come soon enough. ⁠

We know the silence, we know the feeling of having a million questions but choking on the words to ask. We know the urge to fast forward to whatever comes next while wanting to rewind to the blissful naivety of five minutes prior. We know the danger of hoping.⁠

We’ve lost a sense of invincibility we never knew we had, and still we choose to do it all again, and that’s what makes it so different.⁠

Raise your hand if you “CAN imagine” 🙋‍♀️ Then give yourself a pat on the back and remind yourself you’re #toughasamother #toughasaparent 👊⁠


Our Pregnancy After Loss Group is meeting virtually over zoom this Wednesday August 19 from 8pm-10pm MST. Register through our website.

every story matters

The Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Centre is a non-profit registered charity that helps families connect to support on their path to healing after pregnancy or infant loss.  Families like yours can work with us and get support with a variety of services that hold space for your unique story. No matter at what stage of your parenthood journey you find yourself, your story will be heard here.

If you are ready to share your story, or you need help with your journey, get in touch with us.

For more stories like this, visit our Stories of Loss page
or visit #sharingmystoryofloss on Instagram

Book with Erin Winters

In order to book with Erin, please connect directly with our Program Assistant, Shelagh via email at shelagh@pilsc.org

NOTE: Refrain from providing detailed personal information when emailing Shelagh. Feel free to describe your challenges in brief, and leave out personal details that you only wish to share with Erin.


Shelagh (she/her) brings with her a solid background as an admin in a variety of areas from business, academia and now with a charitable organization with the Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Center. She feels passionate about working in a role that benefits others in the community.

Shelagh was exposed to bereavement and deep grief at an early age and it left her with a profound sense of how fragile life is and how we need to find joy and light wherever we can. She feels privileged to be able to take this sense with her into her role with PILSC while putting her strong admin skills to good use.